If you’re always wondering how you can improve your parenting / grandparenting, consider these questions that you can ask the kids when the come home from school. Try these rather than the very vague “How was your day?”.
- What made you smile today?
- Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw today?
- What did you do that was creative?
- Who did you sit with at lunch?
- Was anyone in your class gone today?
- Tell me something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday.
- What was the hardest rule to follow today?
- If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?
- What made your teacher smile?
- Did anything make your teacher frown today?
- If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be? Why?
- What kind of person were you today?
This brings out some discussion points we should probably consider about ourselves. What kind of conversations do we have? Are they ones that make everyone want to go outside, close the door, and not listen to your gloom and doom? Do all of your sentences start with “I”? Yawn.
There are some people who are good to have conversations with. You can tell who they are, because people gather around them. And there are people who are great listeners. You can tell them because people gather around them, too. Those are the sort of things that we can aspire to be better at.
If you are at a loss for small talk, maybe with people you don’t know, ask them something about themselves. And then listen to their answer. It works wonders. People usually like to talk about themselves. And you might find something you have in common and find a new friend.
Go visit or read about somewhere that is interesting. Find one fun fact about where you visited (not the food, please) and have it to tell. Leave out the itinerary though (that’s what I tend to tell).
Talk about something that is coming up and is going to be fun. Like the Christmas Tree Lighting on Dec. 8. You know, those happen when it starts to get dark. Hope to see you there! It happens at the Texas County Courthouse.
I like the conversations that the veterans banners have opened up. I love having them hanging on the street. I think if you have a veteran in your family, you should think about maybe getting them a banner. Call Jim Norris at 580-651-1018. If you want to look at Guymon’s banners, go to www.troopbanners.com and hit Guymon.
And remember, the person who speaks about things in a positive manner is much more interesting than the one who is critical.
Now, go downtown and catch a conversation with someone!
See you on the bricks.
Do you like hearing folk tales? In the Colorado Life magazine this month there is the story of a miracle at Colorado’s oldest church. I found it really interesting.
“The San Luis Valley was Ute territory when Hispanic settlers founded the village of Culebra Abajo there in 1853. Ute warriors, unhappy with the intruders, set out to attack the village while the men were away tending their sheep.
“The terrified villagers prayed to Saint Agathius, or San Acadio, for protection. According to local lore, the Utes suddenly halted their attack when a vision of heavily armed warriors appeared out of nowhere to protect the village. To celebrate this miracle, residents named their town San Acadio and built a church in the saint’s honor. The adobe San Acadio Mission Church, completed in 1868, still stands as the oldest church building in Colorado, and a stained – glass image of the saint watches over the faithful.”
The town of San Acadio promptly earned a spot on my “visit someday” list. The story reminds me of Loretto Chapel in Santa Fe, NM, one of my favorite of all places to go. And if you like stories like those, be sure to watch the old Sidney Poitier movie “Lilies of the Field.” Oh, man, it’s the best.
Do you have a list of places you want to visit someday?
I get teased all the time because I want to plan everyone’s holiday trips. Yes, where to visit, the route to drive, the whole thing. I can even put in interesting bathroom stops if you have little kids. Don’t laugh. Everyone needs a hobby. And mine doesn’t cost a thing … for me!
Are you in the midst of buying Christmas presents? Remember, it isn’t the cost … it’s how much they want them! Seriously, I would rather get a box of fruit teas that I love than some expensive gadget I can’t figure out. While shopping, be sure to use your TCEC Connections Card and get a little discount at some places.
You can use your card and Guymon Tire and Auto and get 5% off purchase of four tires. Wouldn’t that be nice to have someone buy you new tires for Christmas? Yikes, I would love it. Or, you could take that person’s car down and have the oil changed and get $5 off. Great gift and you save five dollars! Check out www.tcec.coop to learn of other places you can use your card and what you get back.
Be sure to use your card if you buy some spirits for the holidays at Dancer’s. That’s a thought for another good gift for drinkers. A little eggnog, anyone?
And remember when you go to the grocery store, you might get a little bit for the local food pantry, Loaves and Fishes. Or just drop them a check to help? I remember reading in an old Rotarian magazine where the Rotarian interviewed said, “When hunger and education compete, hunger always wins.” We need to remember there are hungry people all around us.
Another great gift to someone who enjoys the Guymon Community Theatre are season tickets! Speaking of, they have the play “Oklahoma” coming the first of December.
Have fun finding the perfect gifts and enjoy visiting our unique and fabulous Guymon stores to find them.
See you on the bricks!
Had a conversation with a couple of food servers not so long ago and what they said really disappointed me. They said that the servers hate to get the Sunday afternoon shift. The reason they hate it is that the church crowd is rude and they’re the worst tippers.
Let that sink in for a moment.
These are the people who profess openly to be Christian, who are taught to love one another and treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself. To treat others as you would treat Jesus Christ himself. Hmmmm.
So, with that still rolling about in my head, I heard the Bible passages at church last Sunday.
First reading is from the Old Testament, Ezekiel 34:15-22. “I myself will be the shepherd of my sheep, and I will make them lie down, says the Lord God. I will seek the lost, and I will bring back the strayed, and I will bind up the inured, and I will strengthen the weak, but the fat and strong I will destroy. I will feed them with justice.
“Therefore, thus says the Lord God to them: I myself will judge between the fat sheep and the lean sheep. Because you pushed with flank and shoulder, and butted at all the weak animals with your horns until you scattered them far and wide, I will save my flock, and they shall no longer be ravaged; and I will judge between sheep and sheep.”
Ouch. I don’t know about you, but it makes me decide to be a little nicer.
The Gospel reading was from Matthew 25:34-46. “’Come, you that are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to drink? And when was it that we saw you a stranger and welcomed you, or naked and gave you clothing? And when was it that we saw you sick or in prison and visited you?’ And the king will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me.’ Then he will say to those at his left hand, ‘You that are accursed, depart from me into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels; for I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not give me clothing, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ Then they also will answer, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not take care of you?’ Then he will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’”
Now, if you’re thinking of other people as you read that, stop. This is not told to us to judge others, but to gauge our own actions. And I know that not only do I need to be nicer, but it wouldn’t hurt me a bit to skip a few meals and help those who are really hungry. And it wouldn’t hurt my family to have a few less toys or electronic devices or make up or whatever for some to have food on their table or shoes on their feet.
It’s the holiday season and we need to reflect on what we are doing right and what we can do better. Because all of us can do better.
See you on the bricks!