Lately it seems my form to be pontificating to you all. And that isn’t always appreciated. So, no lecture at all with today’s words. Just sharing of information. Most of it good information. The last couple columns haven’t included upcoming events and calendar items, so I’m going to share those and, also, some of the quotes that I’ve seen and stashed recently. If they sound like a lecture, you’re just being overly sensitive because they are meant to encourage.
The Love Does Drawing for the pork chops, ribs, and steaks donated by Seaboard Foods and National Beef is Mar. 16 at 4 pm in the Main Street Guymon office at 116 NE 5th Street. Those who have given to the fund for school lunches are in the drawing. It is interesting to me the number of people who came in with a check or money because when they were students, they felt embarrassed about being on special / different lunch cards. One lady said, “My mom was a single mom and she worked all the time ….” Some things stick with us and it is a shame that adults still feel that hurt. And it continues to happen to kids today. So, if you want to help, come by the Main Street office or call Jim Norris at 580-651-1018. You can make checks out to Main Street Guymon.
Work for a cause, not for applause. Live life to express, not to impress.
TCEC is going out into the community with their Co-op Connections at Whispering Bliss on Mar. 22 from noon to 1 pm. You can use your Co-op Card for a 20% shopping savings while you’re there! And sign up to win a $100 gift certificate. It’s fun. And remember there is parking in the back, too.
Leadership is not about a title or designation. It’s about impact, influence, and inspiration. Impact involves getting results, influence is about spreading the passion you have for your work, and you have to inspire teammates and customers.
Being bi-lingual is a wonderful skill to have. Always wishing I had a second language, I tend to wish and yet not work at it. But there is help if you want to be. Start maybe with the Bilingual Storytime for Kids at the Guymon Public Library from 1:00 – 1:45 pm. You’ll have to take a 5 – year – old or younger to qualify, but there are plenty who would love some special time like this!
“Let the improvement of yourself keep you so busy that you have no time to criticize others.” ~ Roy T. Bennett
Sometimes we need the help of our legislators and it is important to set that in motion before you need the assistance. Be proactive instead of reactive. Quit posting on facebook and talk to people who actually can help. Be a part of the group traveling to the Oklahoma City Capitol through the Chamber’s Panhandle Day at the Capitol on Mar. 26 and 27. Call Jada and find out more at 338-3376. There’s even a bus that takes us all … join up!
“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.” ~ Roy T. Bennett
Mark Mar. 29 on your calendar for the Workforce Oklahoma Open House at 304 E 4th in Guymon. It is happening from 10 am to noon and they would love to have you come in!
“Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?” ~ Roy T. Bennett
April is our major Community Clean – Up month each year. This year we have several opportunities for you to pitch in and help, if you’re so inclined. There is a work day to spruce up the Texas County Fairgrounds on Sat., Apr. 14. You can be part of the 9 – 11 am crew or the 11 – 1 pm crew. Lunch is offered for the volunteers. There’s painting and painting and painting and cleaning up happening that morning. Call Main Street Guymon at 338-6246 for more information.
We also have Apr. 21 and Apr. 28 Community Clean – Up days planned. And consider giving 30 minutes and just cleaning up your own alley. Walk down and do a good job for you and your neighbors. Be part of this great effort!
Volunteers are not paid – not because they are worthless, but because they are priceless.
See you on the bricks!
Every once in awhile you read something and can’t help but shake your head and go “spot on.” Terry Brand is a friend of mine and her work is with special needs adults. She has a sense of humor and doesn’t usually show that she takes like very seriously. But recently she wrote this, and I read it and thought it should be shared.
“This is the best explanation of what I do,” Terry wrote. “I have worked with these folks for years. I love it every day!
“To the parents of the child with special needs,
“I do not know the struggle you must have gone through watching your child not progress like the other kids. I could never fathom the heartbreak for you when you stopped wishing they would become doctors or lawyers and simply hoped they would be happy.
“My heart breaks every time I think of the moment you wondered what would happen to your little man or sassy miss when you passed on and if anyone would ever attend their funeral since you were no longer around. All these battles you have gone through as a parent and cried and screamed and even questioned your faith over – I hurt a little knowing anyone felt that way.
“I am not a parent of special kids. However, I care for adults with special needs. I have worked with them for over four years. Wonderful being with different levels of understanding I have been blessed even more to call my friends. I know the years of them being adults is far in the future, but know they will continue to be happy in life. They may not ever want to backpack through Europe or see Bono live in concert, but they have a sense of happy that is so much simpler.
“They like the moments their HTS comes in their room and sings Reba to them at the top of her lungs (it always makes them die laughing at the silly moment) or drawing on the sidewalk with chalk in the middle of the summer or having a late night snack with the caretake on duty. They always need someone there to help them shave in the mornings or cook their food, but they do not know that is not normal and they eventually end up loving HTS company.
“I hope you are ready to have your family expand, because we love them and we have bonded with them and we understand them. We stay to keep their routing nd give them security in their environment. We stay because their hugs are genuine, and their laughs are the best – like a child.
“I guess I just wanted you to know though it seems hopeless at times, know there is a light and they will be happy, loved, cared for, and they will be okay.
“Hoping this gave you a second of peace.”
Sometimes we get a glimpse of something we know nothing about … and glimpse something that might give us pause for thought. After reading this, first I am thankful for all those people who do things that to me would be difficult (caregivers of all sorts). Second, the joy that Terry has in her choice of work is felt in what she wrote, and I wish this for all those I love. Find something in your life that brings you joy. And then I want to add, if you are the parent of a special needs child and you need someone to talk to or to help you learn about community resources available to you, call Monica Ronne at 580-651-9700 or Shanda Oden at 580-461-3528. There are people who understand.
And if your heart is wanting to help a family with special needs children, the Oden family is once again adopting two children with special needs from Russia and their friend, Amber Costilla, is organizing a benefit to help cover the extensive adoption costs. Give Amber a call at 338-0072 if you’re interested in having a fun booth, help on the committee, or want to help in some other way! It’s going to be on May 12 for a couple hours and should be fun for the whole family!
Ever noticed how some people are just better at making people believe what they say? They state it and it is just taken as God’s truth. Others can say the same thing and people question and look doubtful at them? I recently read an article in the Toastmaster magazine that gave “Powerful Secrets of Persuasion.”
“Your ability to persuade and influence people – to get them to understand, accept, and act upon your ideas – is crucial to success. People who speak persuasively have greater personal power. They get more things done and achieve goals faster. Learning how to persuade and influence will help you achieve success in every area of life.
“If people don’t trust you, they won’t listen to you. Trust underpins everything you say and do. Without it, you are lost. Live your life so you’re trusted.”
Most people “like people who are similar to us. People prefer to say yes to people they like. That’s why, before getting down to business, it is best to talk about who you are, what you do, and if possible, find common ground or pay a genuine compliment.
“Put yourself in their shoes. You’ll ever be persuasive if you focus on your own needs. Talk to people about their needs and you’ll have their attention.
“Give a little something to get a little something in return. By giving something, doing a favor, making a concession, providing small gestures of consideration to others, you’ll find that others will feel compelled to return your kindness.
“What we see is just as important as what we hear. Like it or not, people judge you at first glance. Your body language, behavior, character, gestures and dress all have a lasting impact on your ability to persuade.
“Confidence and certainty are compelling. You have a better chance of persuading others if you believe in what you do.
“Have authority. People listen to experts. By having authority, you can get a yes quicker and more often.
“Knowledge is power. Know your subject.
“Build your reputation. Integrity, accomplishments, and character are all important. When it comes to influence, your reputation is your biggest asset.
“Establish rapport. When people are comfortable with you, they are more open to your suggestions. Listen, ask open – ended questions, pay compliments, use humor.
“Be flexible with your response. The person with the greatest flexibility will have the most influence in any situation. Flexibility enables you to achieve your outcome.
“Stay calm, keep your emotions in check. People turn to those in control of their emotions, especially in times of conflict, pressure, or stress.
“Pick your battles. Persuasive people understand that most conversations don’t require getting someone to do or accept something. Aggressive pushers put people on the defense, while truly persuasive people understand their power and use it sparingly.
“Listen more than you speak. You can’t persuade others if you don’t know the other side of the argument. Listen for objections, connections, and moment of agreement – common group you can capitalize on.
“Engage. Smile, establish eye contact, and speak firmly, clearly, and slowly. People will relax and engage with you and be receptive to your ideas.
“Try to eliminate fear. Whether you’re speaking one – on – one, or to a group or a large audience, don’t think that you’re not good enough or don’t have what it takes. People pick up on nervousness. It creates a barrier to persuasion. We can all get better and no one is perfect.”
Good advice. I’m going to share this with the next Career Focus class.
Hoping you have a great week on the bricks!