Recently asked what are some of the things I treasure, it was easy to answer.
I treasure being with my family and watching how well my kids get along. They communicate fairly well. They smile. They laugh. The love and acceptance is present. My heart swells at these times. And their children get along pretty well, too. Oh, don’t think they’re perfect … that is far from true and they all have distinct personalities, but for the most part, it is accurate.
I treasure waking up in the mornings and sitting down to enjoy a cup of coffee. That makes me happy because I know my world is really good when I have time to do this.
I treasure meeting new people and seeing new places for many years, but more and more it is my coffee and a good book at home. I love books. I love a stimulating conversation at the table. Not people telling me their opinions and trying to change mine, but the sharing of interesting information.
I treasure the Farmer’s Market for bringing people who are happy and smiling together weekend after weekend. Then when you add the contests like the Dog Parade it just makes me laugh and enjoy. The Baby Contest was fun to see so many people proud and happy. The Salsa Contest is fun and the Art Walk makes me appreciate the talent and work some folks have and do.
What do you treasure? What moments do you hope to hold in your mind for the rest of your life because they are so comforting and interesting to you?
What makes you happy?
Being around people who make laugh makes me happy.
Going to the beautiful Oslo Lutheran Church and seeing my family there makes me happy.
Having a job that is ever – changing and community – oriented, I love. And I get to meet some really great, giving people.
I love my life. It isn’t perfect. It isn’t the way I planned for it to be, but I love it.
And I love the Guymon Fiesta. The food and fun, the feeling of being somewhere other than Oklahoma abounds. I love it.
I hope that I’ll see you there enjoying it on Sunday afternoon and evening, too.
Catch you on the bricks!
When a leader loses the loyalty and support of the people that made them a leader there are several commonly accepted reasons as reported in an article entitled “Where Leaders are Made” of the July 2019 Toastmaster magazine. And they are reasons that we need to know and watch that we’re not falling into.
Complacency. Self – satisfied leaders believe they are doing the job the best it can be done, so why change? They avoid risk because it may result in failure, which can topple them from their pedestal. We need to remember that great opportunities are often clothed in risk.
Transference. Leaders can become enamored with authority and expect complete and instant compliance with their commands. They take credit for department successes but transfer the blame for failures. They don’t accept that employees’ failures are also their own.
Isolation. Some bad leaders are convinced of their omniscience, they see no reason to talk to and learn from their employees, who can offer useful perspectives. Some leaders trust only themselves instead of recognizing that, in a complex world, they must also trust many others to provide help to make the best decisions.
True exceptional leaders possess three types of awareness – (1) of themselves, (2) of others, and (3) of the broader environment – each of which enables them to lead more effectively. The same report notes that narcissistic individuals often succeed in gaining leadership roles but fail in performing the associated duties.
The answer to this problem is humility, the ability to respect and acknowledge employees’ contributions, rein in ego, and understand the need to listen – even when the message isn’t something they want to hear.
Success is seldom achieved alone. Humble leaders surround themselves with skilled people, then they delegate appropriately. They are not threatened by their employees’ expertise.
Humble leaders request and heed constructive feedback about their performance. They know they are not the only source of what is right. These leaders are comfortable in a setting in which it’s permissible to debate with a superior about ideas and plans.
Good leaders recognize and own their shortcomings and mistakes, large and small, and acknowledge them with sincerity and humility.
We can all improve our leadership (aka parenting and managerial) skills.
Another thing you might consider is signing up for the Career Focus Professional Development classes through Main Street Guymon. The classes start on Sept. 13 and they’re awesome. Call Melyn at 580-338-6246 for more information.
Mark the Guymon Fiesta on your calendar, Sept. 15 from 3 – 8 pm on the street at 5th and Main. Come by for some awesome food!
See you on the bricks.
Last week I encouraged everyone to take a day off from work and enjoy themselves on the day of my birth (Sept. 2 is my birthday). I noticed many did close shop and relax last Monday and I appreciate all those who got into the real spirit of the day.
When people are kind and caring to you, it makes your heart go soft, your eyes tear up, and you soul is humbled.
Then they have a surprise 60th birthday party for you at the Pub on the Bricks. A surprise to the extent that I was shocked. When I started opening the cards, the shock even went deeper. Almost traumatic.
“In horse years …” said the front of the card my brother, who traveled from Colorado to be there, said. “… you’re glue.”
You know, I thought growing old would take longer.
And my brother wasn’t content with the one card, but gave me another. “Just think …” said the front. “At your age, this might be the last birthday card you ever read.”
You see where the trauma was coming in? He should have given me a gift card for therapy as a present.
Don’t grow up. It’s a trap.
“You’re not old if you can still blow out all your birthday candles …” said the card my sweet children and darling grandchildren signed. “… without farting.” Oh my.
My dear friend Terry Brand gave me some very ummmm, unique, gifts along with a card that read, “Got you this designer birthday card for a fraction of what it would normally cost because it has a slight flaw in it. (open card) Merry Christmas!” Can’t fault anyone for saving a few pennies.
I loved the purple fly swatter with the big flower on it. But the unicorn horn headpiece really looking a little on the shady side. As did some other things in the sack (which all made me laugh). Terry spent some time finding those gifts, but she stayed frugal, which she knows I appreciate.
My father gave me a card (it was his birthday, too, by the way) that had an old hag on the front and it read, “Getting older has its advantages. (open card) Nobody wants to borrow your clothes.” This stems from my family always making fun of my fashion sense, or lack of it. It doesn’t help that my clothing is not the size of a normal persons, either.
You see, I broke up with my gym. We just weren’t working out.
I thought the dryer made my clothes shrink. Turns out it was the refrigerator.
Might as well be honest, being cremated is my last hope for a smoking, hot body.
My friend Jada and her husband, Robert Breeden, drove from Spearman to be there. Good friends like that are hard to find. The card Jada found for me said, “Oh please – don’t cry because you’re getting older … (inside) … cry because others are stupid and it makes you sad.”
That is funny. Especially since Jada and I every single day get phone calls from people wanting us to give them a phone number and we pick up our phone books and give them the number. Every. Single. Day. Are we the only people in town that know how to use a phone book these days? Makes me wonder.
Scientists say the universe is made up of protons, neutrons, and electrons. They forgot to mention morons.
If you can’t find your phone book and don’t understand the scientist’s statement, then all I can add is “I can explain it to you, but I can’t understand it for you.”
I’m not mean, I’m brutally honest. It’s not my fault truth hurts. Here’s a band aid.
So, at the table were my friends who don’t easily get their feelings hurt, who laugh easily, and who are the best people on this earth. It was a wonderful evening. Sitting next to me was my cousin Ronda Holt and we visited and visited. We think we’re funny.
Sitting next to Ronda was her husband, Kevin. He might have said five words all evening. He’s quiet. Across the table from him was Jason Hitch. He’s not loud or obnoxious, but sort of quiet, too.
There’s a shirt I should order for Robert Breeden, Kevin, and Jason. It says, “Introverts unite. We’re here. We’re uncomfortable. And we want to go home!” I am pretty sure that everyone of them was only at the birthday dinner because their wife told them they needed to be. Love them all!!
The shirt that I would buy for myself and Jada says, “You know that little thing inside your head that keeps you from saying things you shouldn’t? Yeah, I don’t have one of those.” In fact, quite a few of my friends have probably earned that shirt.
The birthday party was an evening of wonderment. Good friends. All my children at the tables, visiting with friends. My parents. The spouses of them all. Truly the thing that dreams are made up of.
My brother’s wife is the nicest person in our family and she gave me a card that said, “If you’re wondering how the years have gone by so quickly … it’s because time flies when you’re busy bringing happiness to others and making your own special mark on the world.” That is a sentiment that should be said to all those that came, many who took the time to call and send sweet notes.
Thank you to everyone that made my birthday special. May the Lord bless you and keep you and send love and kindness to you on your birthday, too.
See you on the bricks!