On The Bricks

April 7, 2020

          The Corona virus has changed the days into something very different from our norm, for most people. The busy, constantly moving days have slowed down, whether that’s what we wanted or not. Those who live with their children are seeing their children much more. Those who don’t live with their children are not able to see them.

          For those who are home with their kids, try to take the time to say the things to them that you need to. You will never have another chance like you do now. These days could be the greatest gift you’ll have in your lifetime in that way.

          William Martin wrote Ancient Advice for Modern Parents that might be a good read for you.

          “Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples, and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.”

          I love the stories of people who are taking this time of COVID19, reaching out and making the ordinary come alive.

          Yesterday my daughter dropped a delicious lunch off at my house. Knowing that she cared enough to share her lunch with me gave me joy. Then my friend, Marissa Hernandez, brought me home – made chili rellanoes for supper. She dropped it off and when I was eating it, here at my house during the quarantine, I felt the love of sharing between friends. Simple things, but so much more.

          Shanae Messer, a young mother in Gruver posted about the Front Porch Project on her facebook page. “We are living through a time that will be talked about forever. This is a part of history that you will tell your children and grandchildren, and them theirs. I’d love to be able to provide a few images for you to look back on and share while you are telling your stories.

          “This evening between 6:30 and 7:30 pm, I’m going to drive around Gruver and snap a few front porch images of families from the curb, while practicing social distancing. If you would like to participate, message me your address and telephone number. Nothing fancy – you can be in your pjs, dressed casually, or dress up if you want!

          “No session fee but I do ask that if you are able, make a donation to a local charity or cause. I’ve listed some below that I’m aware of:

          “To Bartlett’s (Hardware and Lumber Store) for filters for masks that Gyene Spivey and other ladies are making.

          “Neighbors Grocery Store account they have for monetary donations to help those in need with grocery costs and also gift cards.

          “United Way Amarillo COVID Response.

          “High Plains Food Bank.”

          My daughter Lisa Schulz and her family have the coolest front porch photo from that evening.

          And last Friday my daughter Missy Cartwright texted me to go out on my porch and watch the cars going up and down Main Street of Texhoma, honking and socializing while safely staying in their own cars. They called it the Corona Cruise and 50 cars of people from just driving age to 70 years old participated. The 70 – year – olds knew all about dragging Main. It was a time of sharing our expertise.

I think they’re going to make the Corona Cruise happen again. That’s fun.

          I sit at my dining room table, working from home, and I remember all those mornings that I wished I could stay home and not go into the office. That wish has come true. Now I need to make sure I appreciate this opportunity and use it for good things.

          My prayer is that we all find ourselves appreciating today and doing what we need to do with a humble heart.

          Famous Okie information: Maybe you would like to take the opportunity to read a book by an Oklahoma author. Suggestions to choose from include Ralph Ellison, Tony Hillerman, S.E. Hinton, Louis L’Amour, Billie Letts, Tracy Letts, or N. Scott Momaday. They have written some great books!

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound.

Made me laugh: My kids accused me of being immature. I told them to get out of my fort.

          See you on the bricks soon!