In spite of their parents, my children have really turned into excellent adults. That may surprise some folks.
We can always be better parents. We could all have better parents. But the fact of the matter is that most parents really do the best they can. There are times we get advice that is irritating. But there are times we get advice that is a blessing to the whole family.
Recently I read a list of positive things to say to your child and I saw it as a blessing … a reminder of things we should say and mean. That goes for any age your children may be.
Let me share that list.
- You are helpful.
- You were right.
- I know you did your best.
- I’m grateful for you.
- You have great ideas.
- I love being your mom.
- I believe in you.
- You are important.
- You make me proud.
- You are loved.
- You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing.
- I believe you.
- You are worth it.
- Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
- It’s good to be curious.
- We all make mistakes, it’s ok.
- I understand you.
- You can say no.
- This family would not be the same without you.
- We can try it your way.
- I appreciate you.
- I know you did your best.
- I forgive you.
- I am so glad you’re here.
- That was really brave what you did.
- I admire you.
- It’s your decision.
- If you really believe in something, it’s important.
- Don’t give up.
- I could never stop loving you.
- You can try again tomorrow.
- Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
- You are enough.
- It’s OK to be scared.
- Even if you make a mistake, you can fix it.
- Being kind does not make you weak.
- Your ideas are great.
- You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.
- Anything is possible.
- You can make a difference.
- I love how you said that.
- I’m listening.
- You did that so well.
- You make my heart full.
- Not everyone will like you, and that’s ok.
- You have a choice.
- That’s a great question.
- I’m so excited to spend time with you.
- That was a really good choice.
- I trust you.
- I hear you.
- Your attitude can change any situation.
- You are a great friend.
- Never stop trying.
- I’ll always love you.
These are all things we should be telling our kids, and things we want to hear from our parents. Let’s start making it a point to say them. But only if you mean them.
You are important to this community. Yes, you. Start being the person you want to be and the person that will make you proud.
See you on the bricks!