On The Bricks

April 17, 2020

          “Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,” says Max Ehrmann in Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life, “and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

          “Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love – for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennials as the grass.

          “Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you from misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

          “Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.”

          Famous Okie information: Oklahoma has four mountain ranges including the Ouachitas, Arbuckles, Wichitas, and the Kiamichis.

Keep going on Your New Years resolutions: Drink more water. The body needs it and 75% of us are chronically dehydrated.

Made me laugh: It sucks when I read read as read and not read, so I have to re-read as read so I can read read correctly and it can make sense.

          See you on the bricks soon!

On The Bricks

April 10, 2020

Today, “Typhoid Mary” is a colloquial term for anyone who, knowingly or not, spreads disease or some other undesirable thing.

The real Typhoid Mary was Mary Mallon, born Sept. 23, 1869 in CookstownCounty Tyrone, in what is now Northern Ireland. She migrated to the United States in 1883 or 1884. She lived with her aunt and uncle for a time and found work as a cook for affluent families. She is believed to have infected 51 people, three of whom died, with typhoid fever, and is the first person in the United States identified as an asymptomatic carrier of the disease.

An asymptomatic carrier is a person or other organism that has become infected with a pathogen, but that displays no signs or symptoms. Although unaffected by the pathogen, carriers can transmit it to others or develop symptoms in later stages of the disease.

Because Mary persisted in working as a cook, by which she exposed others to the disease, she was twice forcibly isolated by authorities, and died after a total of nearly three decades in isolation.

From 1900 to 1907, Mallon worked as a cook in the New York City area for seven families. In 1900, she worked in Mamaroneck, New York, where, within two weeks of her employment, residents developed typhoid fever. In 1901, she moved to Manhattan, where members of the family for whom she worked developed fevers and diarrhea, and the laundress died. Mallon then went to work for a lawyer and left after seven of the eight people in that household became ill.

In August 1906, Mallon took a position in Oyster Bay, Long Island, and within two weeks 10 of the 11 family members were hospitalized with typhoid.] She changed jobs again, and similar occurrences happened in three more households. She worked as a cook for the family of a wealthy New York banker, Charles Henry Warren. When the Warrens rented a house in Oyster Bay for the summer of 1906, Mallon went along. From August 27 to September 3, six of the 11 people in the family came down with typhoid fever. The disease at that time was “unusual” in Oyster Bay, according to three medical doctors who practiced there. Mallon was subsequently hired by other families, and outbreaks followed her.

In late 1906, one family hired a typhoid researcher named George Soper to investigate. Soper published the results on June 15, 1907, in the Journal of the American Medical Association. He believed Mallon might have been the source of the outbreak. 

Soper discovered that a female Irish cook, who fit the physical description he was given, was involved in all the outbreaks. He was unable to locate her because she generally left after an outbreak began, without giving a forwarding address. Soper learned of an active outbreak in a penthouse on Park Avenue and discovered Mallon was the cook. Two of the household’s servants were hospitalized, and the daughter of the family died of typhoid.

When Soper approached Mallon about her possible role in spreading typhoid, she adamantly rejected his request for urine and stool samples. Since Mallon refused to give samples, he decided to compile a five – year history of Mallon’s employment. Soper found that of the eight families that hired Mallon as a cook, members of seven claimed to have contracted typhoid fever. On his next visit, he took another doctor with him but again was turned away. During a later encounter when Mallon was herself hospitalized, he told her he would write a book and give her all the royalties. She angrily rejected his proposal and locked herself in the bathroom until he left.

The New York City Health Inspector determined Mary was a carrier and she was held in isolation for three years at a clinic located on North Brother Island.

In prison, she was forced to give stool and urine samples. Authorities suggested removing her gallbladder because they believed typhoid bacteria resided there. However, she refused as she did not believe she carried the disease. She was also unwilling to cease working as a cook.

Mallon attracted so much media attention that she was called “Typhoid Mary” in a 1908 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association.

Eventually, Eugene H. Porter, the New York State Commissioner of Health, decided that disease carriers should no longer be kept in isolation and that Mallon could be freed if she agreed to stop working as a cook and take reasonable steps to prevent transmitting typhoid to others. On February 19, 1910, Mallon agreed that she was “prepared to change her occupation (that of a cook), and would give assurance by affidavit that she would upon her release take such hygienic precautions as would protect those with whom she came in contact, from infection.” She was released from quarantine and returned to the mainland.

Upon her release, Mallon was given a job as a laundress, which paid less than cooking. After several unsuccessful years of working as a laundress, she changed her name to Mary Brown and returned to her former occupation. For the next five years, she worked in a number of kitchens; wherever she worked, there were outbreaks of typhoid. However, she changed jobs frequently, and Soper was unable to find her.

In 1915, Mallon started another major outbreak, this time at Sloane Hospital for Women in New York City. Twenty-five people were infected, and two died. She again left, but the police found and arrested her. Health authorities returned her to quarantine on North Brother Island on March 27, 1915. She was still unwilling to have her gallbladder removed.

Mallon spent the rest of her life in quarantine at the Riverside Hospital. Six years before her death, she was paralyzed by a stroke. On November 11, 1938, she died of pneumonia at age 69. A post – mortem found evidence of live typhoid bacteria in her gallbladder

George Soper wrote however, “There was no autopsy”, a claim cited by other researchers to assert a conspiracy to calm public opinion after her death. Mallon’s body was cremated, and her ashes buried at Saint Raymond’s Cemetery in the Bronx.

Among the infections Mallon caused, at least three deaths were attributed to her; however, because of her use of aliases and refusal to cooperate, the exact number is not known. Some have estimated that she may have caused 50 fatalities.

Other healthy typhoid carriers identified in the first quarter of the 20th century include Tony Labella, an Italian immigrant, presumed to have caused over 100 cases (with five deaths); an Adirondack guide dubbed “Typhoid John”, presumed to have infected 36 people (with two deaths); and Alphonse Cotils, a restaurateur and bakery owner.

          Good advice: “’I’m bored’ is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say ‘I’m bored’.” ~ American Comedian Louis C.K.

          See you on the bricks soon.

On The Bricks

April 7, 2020

          The Corona virus has changed the days into something very different from our norm, for most people. The busy, constantly moving days have slowed down, whether that’s what we wanted or not. Those who live with their children are seeing their children much more. Those who don’t live with their children are not able to see them.

          For those who are home with their kids, try to take the time to say the things to them that you need to. You will never have another chance like you do now. These days could be the greatest gift you’ll have in your lifetime in that way.

          William Martin wrote Ancient Advice for Modern Parents that might be a good read for you.

          “Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples, and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.”

          I love the stories of people who are taking this time of COVID19, reaching out and making the ordinary come alive.

          Yesterday my daughter dropped a delicious lunch off at my house. Knowing that she cared enough to share her lunch with me gave me joy. Then my friend, Marissa Hernandez, brought me home – made chili rellanoes for supper. She dropped it off and when I was eating it, here at my house during the quarantine, I felt the love of sharing between friends. Simple things, but so much more.

          Shanae Messer, a young mother in Gruver posted about the Front Porch Project on her facebook page. “We are living through a time that will be talked about forever. This is a part of history that you will tell your children and grandchildren, and them theirs. I’d love to be able to provide a few images for you to look back on and share while you are telling your stories.

          “This evening between 6:30 and 7:30 pm, I’m going to drive around Gruver and snap a few front porch images of families from the curb, while practicing social distancing. If you would like to participate, message me your address and telephone number. Nothing fancy – you can be in your pjs, dressed casually, or dress up if you want!

          “No session fee but I do ask that if you are able, make a donation to a local charity or cause. I’ve listed some below that I’m aware of:

          “To Bartlett’s (Hardware and Lumber Store) for filters for masks that Gyene Spivey and other ladies are making.

          “Neighbors Grocery Store account they have for monetary donations to help those in need with grocery costs and also gift cards.

          “United Way Amarillo COVID Response.

          “High Plains Food Bank.”

          My daughter Lisa Schulz and her family have the coolest front porch photo from that evening.

          And last Friday my daughter Missy Cartwright texted me to go out on my porch and watch the cars going up and down Main Street of Texhoma, honking and socializing while safely staying in their own cars. They called it the Corona Cruise and 50 cars of people from just driving age to 70 years old participated. The 70 – year – olds knew all about dragging Main. It was a time of sharing our expertise.

I think they’re going to make the Corona Cruise happen again. That’s fun.

          I sit at my dining room table, working from home, and I remember all those mornings that I wished I could stay home and not go into the office. That wish has come true. Now I need to make sure I appreciate this opportunity and use it for good things.

          My prayer is that we all find ourselves appreciating today and doing what we need to do with a humble heart.

          Famous Okie information: Maybe you would like to take the opportunity to read a book by an Oklahoma author. Suggestions to choose from include Ralph Ellison, Tony Hillerman, S.E. Hinton, Louis L’Amour, Billie Letts, Tracy Letts, or N. Scott Momaday. They have written some great books!

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound.

Made me laugh: My kids accused me of being immature. I told them to get out of my fort.

          See you on the bricks soon!

On The Bricks

April 1, 2020

          It’s 3:41 in the afternoon and I have just received four invitations to conference calls in the last 15 minutes. Honestly, it seems as if everyone wants to make sure I am aware that they’re aware and they’re all running around in circles so you won’t think they’re not working while they’re quarantined at home.

          The first week it was constant emails that seemed to tell the same things. I get them from the politicians offices, from the Department of Commerce, from several of the regional economic development folks, the State Chamber (that was one that was forwarded from someone that wasn’t in Guymon), the state Main Street office, and the national Main Street office. There might be good information in them, but I certainly don’t read them all. It would take four hours a day to just read them.

          One was a “great way to help your small – town businesses” and I forwarded that on to my business members and then I tried to do it … and I tried again … and I tried again. Then I wished I had deleted it before I ever read it and hoped that my business members didn’t waste their time on it as well.

          This is a difficult time for many and I do not downplay the importance of sharing good information, but I feel the need to tell some people to please hush that seem to just be making more work for me and for themselves.

          After receiving a request to be on a conference call in two days from the Oklahoma Main Street office, I emailed and asked what the call was for. And there was a good reason I asked because I had a previous request for a conference call at that time. Answer to my email, was basically so we can keep in touch and one another can answer everyone’s question. My question, “When will you please leave me alone so I can get some work done?” Pretty sure they don’t want me to be asking my question.

          Had a request from the City of Guymon’s Sheila Martin for a conference call. She gives me hope that my cynical attitude and sarcasm isn’t taking over my life … she actually has a topic that we need to make decisions on and give suggestions to one another. Yes, real things! Thank you, Sheila, for giving me hope in these days of lots of bs and in this time wasting one another’s time to justify our own existence.

          What I love hearing about is how our neighbors are helping one another … not telling us how they care, but showing how they care about this community. I love the way some of the business owners are being creative in getting business. I love having a chance to get to some work that I have wanted to explore for a long time. And I love the volunteers that are saying, when the ban is lifted, they’ll help me see these programs happen.

Okie information: In Ponca City, a tornado once picked up a house with a man and his wife still in it. Though the walls and roof were blown away, the floor remained intact and eventually glided downward, setting the couple safely back on the ground.

Working to keep those New Years resolutions going: Volunteer more. Not only is volunteering good for your own mental and physical health, but you’re doing something kind and selfless for others.

Made me laugh: Someone stole my Microsoft Office and they’re going to pay. You have my Word.

          See you on the bricks soon!

On The Bricks

March 27, 2020

          According to The Book of Bizarre Truth an error in arithmetic contributed to history’s perception of Napoleon as a small man. The only known measurement of Bonaparte came from his autopsy, which reported a height of 5’2”. But it was not taken into account that this measurement was calculated in French units. Translating to slightly more than 168 centimeters, his height was actually 5’6” by the English Imperial system. This was above average for a 19th century Frenchman.

          Another possible reason for this misconception is the fact that Napoleon kpt himself surrounded by a group of relatively tall guardsmen. Napoleon was never seen in public without his guard. These soldiers averaged six feet in height and would have towered over Napoleon.

          Napoleon wasn’t short, according to the Bizarre book, but his temper was. Over time, the notion that the general’s irascible, aggressive personality stemmed from his small size has been applied to any small – statured man who uses his temper to compensate for his height. This is referred to as a “Napoleon Complex,” and it also proves to be a myth. In 2007, researchers at the University of Central Lancashire studied the effect of height on aggression in men. Using heart monitors to gauge reactions, scientists found that taller men were more likely to respond to provocation with aggressive behavior.

          As Napoleon himself said, “History is the version of past events that people have decided to agree upon.” It turns out that history cut Napoleon about four inches short.

          That’s what the book said. But I was at one of Napoleon’s main palaces in 1977 and the bed, which was said to be his bed, was really short.

          Basically, I don’t think it really matters. But we can argue over it, if you want.

Famous Okie information: Oklahoma has produced more astronauts than any other state.

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: Here’s one to try on a day you’re home from work. Spend time with your family or friends and go all day without checking your email.

Sage advice: The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised. ~Norman Vincent Peale

Made me laugh: Only in America do people leave cars worth thousands of dollars in the driveway and put our useless junk in the garage.

          See you on the bricks soon!

On The Bricks

March 23, 2020

          It’s been interesting, this working from home. I get a lot more done because there aren’t lots of meetings to go to … and then come back with more to do. There are no phone calls and no people dropping by. Just working. With events not happening, I have gotten caught up on some things and cleaned out one file drawer for things to work on at home.

          When going through the file drawer I found plenty to throw away, too. I love doing that cleaning stuff. Decluttering is my favorite hobby. I’m fibbing, but it is something to enjoy for me.

          Working from home isn’t completely safe, though. I did injure myself while grating a carrot for my salad. Being a full – fledged member of the technology set (another lie), I promptly took a picture of the injury and sent it to my daughters.

          “Geez, mom,” texted Lisa back, “you better stay home tomorrow.” I don’t know where she gets those wise cracks.

          It’s been interesting. Being just one person in the home and one that has a pantry and keeps enough toilet paper on hand, the whole grocery shopping and standing in line deal hasn’t been part of my world. I see it on facebook and it makes me shake my head. Those with four kids or so are probably not having a positive experience with the shopping business.

          But if I needed bread, I would call one of my friends who is a Mennonite and bakes bread. None of that going without stuff.

          For a fact, I am going through my frig and freezer, using things up and enjoying doing the “spring cleaning.” I had hot dog buns from a picnic left and they are great to open and toast for a sandwich with the left – over pork butt. They’re good with an egg in the morning too. As soon as the buns are gone, I’ll take the pork and make pasole. Just happen to have enough things on hand in the pantry for that.

          It’s like doing a puzzle. It’s all fun.

          Until I notice there’s no chocolate.

          Then it gets real.

          This working from home saves me 40 miles a day (gas savings), having to buy lunch out, and with all the schools out it saves all those kids coming by with fund raisers. I should be able to buy some stock by next week, which is a good deal right now looking at the stock market. And taking my shower during my lunch break is amazing. Not to mention not having to wear a bra.

          Yeah, that’s all better than chocolate, any day.

          I hope that you and all your family are safe and dealing well with the changes. Remember to try to keep a positive attitude because a bad attitude doesn’t make any of this go away.

          Say a prayer for our retailers and our educators that are having to make some huge adjustments. And wave to your neighbors. It’s all going to turn out ok.

          See you on the bricks, soon.

On The Bricks

March 12, 2020

          The beautiful tree on our street has those white flowers on it now. It is gorgeous. When I drive by on my way to work it starts my day so perfectly. And the bulbs are coming up, too. Means it will snow soon, right? Just as soon as the OPSU Rodeo begins it is inevitable. And maybe once before. The weather makes living in the Panhandle a constant adventure.

          This morning before I got to work, I received a text from a friend. Being Miss Johnny – On – the – Spot, I promptly hit whatever I hit to reply. I hit, he called, and I couldn’t answer his call because the keyboard to type the text covered the button to answer the phone. Now, I’m sure there is some way to do this and it probably isn’t even difficult if you’re 11 years old. But I didn’t know how to do it. So, in my irritation, I did not text and in my stupidity, I did not answer the phone. Nothing like pure unaltered ignorance to destroy any potential productivity.

          These things happen and I feel sure it’s Gods way of keeping me humble. It works. I really felt stupid.

          Here is something I read to make us feel better after our stupid moments.

Know that your only competition is who you were yesterday. For me, after the stupid moment with the phone, tomorrow is going to be a breeze.

Earn, save, and invest before you spend. Great advice and lots easier to do when you start young. If you put into your savings and investment before you even look at your check, you might not even miss it. We have a couple of really good men to help you with your investments (and you don’t have to start with much … even $25 a month is a start). Both Mitch Egger and Kyle Hawkins are Main Street Guymon members and will help you start your investment plan. They’re here in town and always ready to answer your questions. You call them and you get a person on the phone who answers you quickly. They know you personally.

Avoid negative people, life is too short. Don’t have to explain that one. But if your friends stop answering your phone or inviting you out, you might make sure that it’s not you who is the negative one. Positive people energize you; negative people sap your energy. Be the positive.

If you don’t go after what you want, you will never get it.  And there is nobody to blame but yourself. We are always capable of so much more than we do. Start to fulfill more of your potential and don’t wait for someone to walk you through it. Do it.

See failure as a beginning, not an end. Walk forward with purpose and have a goal.

Our habits decide our future. What habits do you have that are guiding your chances to or from success?

Those are all good thoughts and sometimes they make us realize that we’re really not doing as well as we should be and it’s time to get down and serious. Other times we realize there is much for us to appreciate. So consider and be honest with yourself. Even if it hurts.

Famous Okie information: The highest wind speed ever recorded on earth was in Moore, Okla., on May 3, 1999, during the Oklahoma City during the F-5 tornado. Wind speed clocked at 318 mph.

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: Take little bites and savor them. Play with your children. Laugh with your friends. Notice the beauty you see, wherever you are, wherever you be. Be grateful enough to fall on your knees. Watch the last rays of a sunset end. Empty your mind time to time. Forgive all you can. Less sweets. Less bourbon. Less butter. Less salt. Be present.

Restaurant Team notes: The Main Street Guymon Restaurant Team has a goal to eat at every restaurant in Guymon and invite them to be a Main Street Guymon member.

Sage advice: Bring light. Bring beauty. Bring jumper cables.

Made me laugh: The instructor says, “Welcome to Salsa class! Who’s ready to learn how to dance?” Class member, hiding a bag of tortilla chips says, “There’s been a misunderstanding.”

Things you might want to go to in town: On Mar. 26 is a Spaghetti Dinner benefit for the Guymon Swim Team at the high school cafeteria, 2002 N. James, from 5 to 7 pm. Mar. 28 is the Aggie Fest in Goodwell. Apr. 4 is the Kick for Cans Barrel Racing at Hitch Arena, a benefit for Panhandle Services for Children. The ladies at St. Peter’s Catholic Church have their Spring Salad Luncheon on Apr. 2 from 11 to 1:30, $10 a plate. Apr. 12 is Easter. April is also our Community Clean-Up month.

Hope you enjoy being a part of some of these events. Get involved. Be a positive impact in our community.

See you on the bricks.

On The Bricks

February 27, 2020

          Everywhere you go there are people that can be so annoying. They’re in the office. They’re at club meetings. They’re sitting next to me at an event.

          It’s time to start working on enjoying rather than being annoyed.

          We can control our ourselves, not their annoying tendencies. We can control our state of mind, our reactions, our intentions, our approach, and our words.

          Think about a person who annoys you. Get a picture in your mind of that person. See their smug face? Hear their irritating voice? Pay attention to how you feel, your facial expression, your body’s reactions. Is there a surge of contempt? It is time to start controlling these reactions.

          In his extensive studies on marriage and relationship, American psychologist John Gottman was able to predict with over 94% accuracy whether or not a couple would last. His most effective measurement was contempt. If he sees signs of contempt in one or both partners, it’s a good indicator they will be facing each other in court one day.

          So, we need to learn how to adapt a neutral position, physically, emotionally, and mentally.

          Counselor Sheri Alexander says, “A client of mine dislikes his boss. He feels like his boss is always seeking approval from everyone. And because his boss wants approval more than anything else, his boss doesn’t like to ruffle any feathers and, therefore, lets other employees get away with bad behavior.

          “I asked my client, ‘How would your boss describe himself? He likely would not say, ‘I always seek everyone’s approval.’ So how would he say it?

          “After thinking about it a bit, my client said, ‘Well, he’d probably say that he just wants everyone to be happy.’

          “’Yes!’ I said. ‘And now imagine how difficult his job is every day. He’s the boss. And there’s no way to be the boss and keep everyone happy all the time. You have to disappoint people, which sound like his biggest fear. Every day presents him with a challenge – a chance for him to be disliked. And you also seem like the type of person who isn’t easily impressed, So, maybe now we can see where the clash is occurring.’

          “My client paused as he considered this, then exclaimed, ‘That’s so big! I never thought of it that way!’

          “After shifting the belief from ‘he always seeks everyone’s approval’ to ‘he’s really afraid of letting people down,’ we figured out ways we could repair and improve their working relationship.

          “I coached my client to sandwich his criticisms and differing opinions between validating statements, such as, ‘I like where we’re headed with this. We could improve the process if we integrated this other system,’ or ‘I think you’ve laid out a great framework for us to work with here.’

          “By questioning a faulty belief, we were able to find things within his control that could improve the relationship.

          “Try to shift your mindset to one of curiosity rather than one of judgment. In doing so, you change the dynamic in the relationship because judgment closes the door to change. Curiosity opens it.”

Famous Okie information: Cimarron County, located in the far western Oklahoma Panhandle, is the only county in the United States bordered by four separate states – Texas, New Mexico, Colorado, and Kansas.

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: This year love your life. Take pictures of everything. Tell people you love them. Talk to random strangers. Do things that you’re scared to do. So many of us die and no one remembers a thing we did. Take your life and make it the best story in the world. Don’t waste it.

Restaurant Team notes: The Main Street Guymon Restaurant Team has a goal to eat at every restaurant in Guymon and invite them to be a Main Street Guymon member. Seven of us had supper at Eddie’s Steakhouse. By far, the favorite meal to order was the fried jumbo shrimp with either the baked potato or baked yam. It was good. It’s only serving in the evenings and isn’t a place folks usually take their young children. A great place to go if you want to have a conversation with who you’re eating with without television and loud music distracting you.

Sage advice: First keep peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others. ~Thomas a Kempis

Things you might want to go to in town: Mar. 3 is the Open House at the new PCHC site at 1309 N. East Street in Guymon. You can meet the new medical doctor and several new counselor’s too!  The Open House runs from 5:30 to 6:30 and the public is encouraged to come in.

See you on the bricks.

On The Bricks

February 21, 2020

Here’s something to think about that I read on facebook. I admit I changed a few items.

Characteristics of people that you want to be around include a positive attitude, they embrace change, forgive others, talk about ideas, love to learn, accept responsibility for their failures, and have a sense of gratitude. Characteristics of people that you probably don’t want to be around, include a negative attitude, they fear change, hold grudges, talk about people, think they know it all, blame others for their failures, and have a sense of entitlement.

Some good points made there. We can all improve to be the first person.

Famous Okie information: The shopping cart was invented in Ardmore, Okla. in 1936.

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: This year recognize your uniqueness; offer your support to someone who needs it; keep going, focus on love and forgiveness and peace; steer clear of people and things that wound you; see the love around you; strive to be happy, speak and be heard; support what is right in the face of what is wrong; look forward and live today.

Restaurant Team notes: The Main Street Guymon Restaurant Team has a goal to eat at every restaurant in Guymon and invite them to be a Main Street Guymon member. Four of us ate at Dona Carmen’s and it was delicious. The best menu item, bar none, is the green chili chicken fried steak. So good. Good prices.

Sage advice: Memories remind us that nothing last forever. Time is precious and should not be wasted. Enjoy life and remember, don’t count the days, make the days count.

Things you might want to so in town: Feb. 29th is the Leap of Kindness day. You are encouraged to do something kind for someone that day. You can do something for a group, as a group; or do something kind for a friend or neighbor as an individual. Every day holds opportunities to be kind, but make a supreme effort on Feb. 29 to do so! Some groups are encouraging donations to Loaves and Fishes, to Panhandle Services for Children and other entities. We have an extra day … let’s all fill it with extra kindness!

See you on the bricks.

On The Bricks

February 14, 2020

There is so much going around about politics and immigration and this and that where people are irritated at others and want changes and want this and want that. These issues keep coming up in conversations and people start talking about them and putting their hands on their hips or pointing a finger while they’re talking.

A recent article in the Living Lutheran magazine says that the best way to address these topics is through love. And the writer gave some really good tips to follow. Words can give life, and words can kill. Words chosen carefully will draw out more intelligent conversation.

  1. Remember, you and I don’t know everything.
  2. Be curious, not furious. Curiosity seeks to learn, not to remain ignorant.
  3. The people with whom you argue are made in the image of God – just as you are.
  4. Hurt and anger are twins. When someone lashes out in anger, beneath that is probably hurt. Don’t let your anger jag keep you guilty forever or empower you to get louder and more self – satisfied. Take your own inventory (flaws and gifts) often, so you can get to know yourself better – you will be a better communicator in the end.
  5. Be patient.
  6. Truth is many faceted. Recognize that when another person has a different viewpoint, there may well be an element of truth in it. Find it. State it. See how the anxiety goes down and the thinking goes up. And when you are convinced of your truth, say it in love, not in anger or one – upmanship.
  7. Love trumps everything else. A huge part of the strength of real love is the ability to also say, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake. I ask your forgiveness. Can we continue to talk and learn together?”

Famous Okie information: The first Girl Scout Cookie was sold in Muskogee, Okla., in 1917.

Keep Going on Your New Years Resolutions: In this new year, I hope you live louder. I hope you laugh more. I hope you sing at the top of your lungs. I hope you drive with the windows down and let the wind rustle through your hair. I hope you hug. I hope you kiss. I hope you surround yourself with people who make you feel alive. I hope you become the type of person that brings good energy wherever you go, and the type of person people want to be around. I hope you speak what’s on your mind, that you raise your voice for injustice, that you tell others you love them, instead of waiting until it’s too late. I hope you live louder, shine brighter. This is your year.

Restaurant Team notes: The Main Street Guymon Restaurant Team has a goal to eat at every restaurant in Guymon and invite them to be a Main Street Guymon member. Our second restaurant stop was at Caktus Jacks. The best surprise was the huge salad, which was very good, was half price on Tuesdays. How about losing weight and gaining dimes in the pocketbook? Sounds good to me.

Sage advice:  “Ancora imparo (I am still learning).” ~Michelangelo, at age 87.

Things you might want to see in town:

The Main Street Guymon Awards Evening is on Feb. 18 with a dinner and a chance to honor some of our many community volunteers and businesses. Tickets are $25 per person and the theme is Roaring 20s. You should go! Especially if you have considered getting more involved in the community. Or if you just want to watch!

I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day and that you made the day special for someone.

See you on the bricks.